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    Nicole Matusow, LCSW

    Licensed Psychotherapist - NYC

About Me & My Practice

I see couples looking to repair/renew their relationship and individuals wondering why they're repeating the same relationship patterns. Frustration and heartache caused by communication issues, affairs, separation, limerence, stagnation, and loneliness make it impossible to feel settled and at peace. In therapy, we'll bring calm back into your life as we clear out whatever's been hogging your psychic space and identify recurring themes you're ready to leave behind. I also work with artists/creatives hoping to understand and resolve blocks and lack of focus in their work (often in addition to some of the above).

The quality of our relationships has a great deal to do with the quality of our lives. Connecting in a meaningful way can sometimes be a struggle, whether it's with your partner or love interest, or as an artist to your craft. And, let's not forget the relationship with yourself. In many ways, the relationship with yourself is the most important relationship in your life. If you don't show up for yourself, how can you truly show up for others? Therapy is an invaluable step in the process of nurturing your needs and your worth.

I'm gentle and warm, and I go at your pace. I see therapy as a collaborative process that promotes self-understanding and acceptance. My job is to be finely attuned to you as we work toward ensuring that your needs are met inside and outside the therapy room.

Whether it's your relationship with the people in your life or with your life's calling, the work we do together will help you sort through the barriers that have been keeping you from being the best version of yourself.

My office is at 928 Broadway (at 21st Street) in the Flatiron area of Manhattan (10010). I also have an office in Westchester at 7 Pondfield in Bronxville, NY.

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My Approach

What happens in the room...

mindfulness therapy

Raising awareness...

You'll begin to create the awareness needed to create change outside the therapy room. Becoming mindful of your everyday thoughts, feelings, and behaviors will be the foundation of our work together.

cbt dbt therapy

Exploring outdated patterns of coping ...

Digging deeper into your recent and not-so-recent history is essential to unearthing old thought patterns and behaviors that are no longer working for you.

psychodynamic psychoanalytic therapy

Uncovering unconscious motivations...

Sorting through hidden feelings and motivations that may be preventing you from getting unstuck and truly connecting in your relationships.


I am experienced in a range of specialties, including:

couples communication issues

Couples Therapy/
Relationship Issues

Whether you're having a crisis with your spouse or partner or hoping to fix what's been broken in your relationship, my first order of business is to help you communicate with each other in a productive way.

Couples I've worked with often share the same sentiment: We thought we were communicating all this time. They weren't. I help couples feel safe to speak freely and rewire the lines of communication so they find themselves on the same page.

If you're trying to cope after a break up or divorce, I'll be there to support you and help guide your grieving and healing process so you can function better in your daily life.

artist creativity issues


Fear of failure or lack of inspiration might be preventing you from taking next step in your career. Or maybe, as an artist in your craft, you'd like to get to know yourself better to free the parts of you that are dusty or rusty. Either way, I can help you get unstuck and unencumbered by whatever is preventing you from honing your skills and carving out your unique path.

If you're lacking structure in your creative life, or something has been preventing you from making progress, together we'll get you back on track by helping you identify and define how you want to be spending your days.

anxiety therapy


It's hard to put on a brave face and act like you have it together when you're suffering. Anxiety or depression can leave filled with shame and feeling alone at a time when you need support the most.

These issues may be indicative of an underlying issue stemming from childhood or trauma. The treatment process might include both treating the symptoms and understanding the underlying causes.

object relations psychoanalytic therapy

Childhood Issues
Affecting Adulthood

From the moment we're born, we are affected by what goes on around us. In infancy, our mother (or caregiver) is our world, and we rely on her to get our needs met. We are shaped by our earliest experiences, and we develop both functional and dysfunctional coping methods.

Talk therapy can help you understand the ways in which your formative years have had an impact on your recent years.

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What to expect...

If you've googled "how to find a couples therapist in nyc" or "find a good therapist near me," you already know that it's no easy task sorting through the results. And then when you make a choice, not knowing what to expect is a scary notion.

Will she be warm and caring? What if I don't feel comfortable telling her things about my life? Will she put me at ease? What if she can't help me? Those things are on my mind too before we meet for the first time, because I want to make sure your concerns aren't realized. And especially that last one. I'm confident that I CAN help you through right now, and in the direction of where you'd like to be...with warmth and caring. There. Now you know what to expect.

Group Therapy

Contact me to join a group.

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The Next Chapter: Childless Not by Choice

Not being a parent doesn't have to define you. Whatever circumstances brought you to this moment, the stigma our culture places on childlessness can leave you feeling like you're "not enough." Share your personal history with relationships, career, family, friendships, and childlessness and hear those of others who refuse to feel invisible. Let's start working on the next chapter...

Recent Articles

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couples attacking each other in therapy

When Humans Attack Part II:
Attacking Those You Love

Watching couples communicate in my office sometimes feels like watching a tennis match. And, although there are times when I’m on the edge of my seat, I’m by no means a spectator. I see myself more as the coach, the referee, the commentator, and a supportive parent in the stands. As long as they’re not going all John McEnroe on each other, I feel equipped to play all these roles. 

Whether or not couples realize it, their pre-therapy communication often includes offensive and defensive postures. There are verbal and non-verbal strategies we learned long ago to protect ourselves in the midst of danger. And, in the case of couples, the danger is intimacy.

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Limerence as a Resistance to Intimacy

In thinking about limerence — the sensation of being obsessively infatuated with another person with a strong desire for reciprocation, and which I’ve written about more in depth here — I found myself pondering the relationship between the fear of intimacy and the fear of abandonment. Although it seems like these fears oppose one another, in limerence especially, both fears coexist.

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When Humans Attack, Part I: Self-Attack

There’s no shortage of motivational speakers, memes, and well-meaning people telling you to and all good things will follow. I don’t think I’m the only person who’s been perplexed about just how to do that. How do I start? What does it look like? Why do I need to? Why don’t I already? Step-by-step instructions (with photos!) would be really useful here. Since inspirational memes rarely go into detail, we’re left to feel even worse about ourselves, because it’s not something we can just do.

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Nicole Matusow, LCSW

Individual Therapy | Couples Therapy | Group Therapy

NYC | Bronxville

928 Broadway, New York, NY 10010

7 Pondfield, Bronxville, NY 10708