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    Nicole Matusow, LCSW

    Licensed Psychotherapist - NYC

About Me & My Practice

I see couples and individuals who are dealing with anxiety, depression, intimacy or communication issues, infidelity, or the heartache of a break up or limerence. I also work with many artists/creatives looking to unpack their continuous procrastination and lack of focus in their work (often in addition to some of the above).

The quality of our relationships has a great deal to do with the quality of our lives. Connecting in a meaningful way can sometimes be a struggle, whether it's with your partner or love interest, or as an artist to your craft. And, let's not forget the relationship with yourself. In many ways, the relationship with yourself is the most important relationship in your life. If you don't show up for yourself, how can you truly show up for others? Therapy is an invaluable step in the process of nurturing your needs and your worth.

In therapy, I actively listen, I ask questions you haven't asked yourself before, and I share observations. I'm not the kind of therapist who says very little or the type to talk through your entire session; my style is more inquisitive and collaborative.

Whether it's your relationship with the people in your life or with your life's calling, the work we do together will help you sort through the barriers that have been keeping you from being the best version of yourself.

My office is at 928 Broadway (at 21st Street) in the Flatiron area of Manhattan (10010). I also have an office in Westchester at 7 Pondfield in Bronxville, NY.

Call or text me at (646) 580-3123 or email me at nicole@nicolematusow.com to make an appointment.

Or, click here to schedule a 15 minute phone consultation.

My Approach

What happens in the room...

mindfulness therapy

Raising awareness...

You'll begin to create the awareness needed to create change outside the therapy room. Becoming mindful of your everyday thoughts, feelings, and behaviors will be the foundation of our work together.

cbt dbt therapy

Exploring outdated patterns of coping ...

Digging deeper into your recent and not-so-recent history is essential to finding new ways of coping and leaving old patterns behind.

psychodynamic psychoanalytic therapy

Uncovering unconscious motivations...

Sorting through hidden feelings and motivations that may be preventing you from getting unstuck and truly connecting in your relationships.


I am experienced in a range of specialties, including:

couples communication issues

Couples Therapy/
Relationship Issues

Whether you're having a crisis with your spouse or partner or hoping to fix what's been broken in your relationship, my first order of business is to help you communicate with each other in a productive way.

Couples I've worked with often share the same sentiment: We thought we were communicating all this time. They weren't. I help couples rewire the lines of communication so they find themselves on the same page.

If you're trying to cope after a break up or divorce, I'll be there to support you and help guide your grieving and healing process so you can function better in your daily life.

artist creativity issues


Fear of failure or lack of inspiration might be preventing you from taking next step in your career. Or maybe, as an artist in your craft, you'd like to get to know yourself better to free the parts of you that are dusty or rusty. Either way, I can help you get unstuck and unencumbered by whatever is preventing you from honing your skills and carving out your unique path.

If you're lacking structure in your creative life, or something has been preventing you from making progress, together we'll get you back on track by helping you identify and define how you want to be spending your days.

anxiety therapy

Persistent Worry

Excessive or constant worrying, stress, catastrophizing, sleep issues, stage fright, and feeling a lack of control are just some of the many manifestations of anxiety.

These issues may be indicative of an underlying issue stemming from childhood or trauma. The treatment process might include both treating the symptoms and understanding the underlying causes of your anxiety.

object relations psychoanalytic therapy

Childhood Issues
Affecting Adulthood

From the moment we're born, we are affected by what goes on around us. In infancy, our mother (or caregiver) is our world, and we rely on her to get our needs met. We are shaped by our earliest experiences, and we develop both functional and dysfunctional coping methods.

Talk therapy can help uncover the maladaptive coping mechanisms that are no longer working for you in adulthood.

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What to expect...

If you've googled "how to find a couples therapist in nyc" or "find a good therapist near me," you already know that it's no easy task sorting through the results. And then when you make a choice, not knowing what to expect is a scary notion.

Will she be warm and caring? What if I don't feel comfortable telling her things about my life? Will she put me at ease? What if she can't help me? Those things are on my mind too before we meet for the first time, because I want to make sure your concerns aren't realized. And especially that last one. I'm confident that I CAN help you through right now, and in the direction of where you'd like to be...with warmth and caring. There. Now you know what to expect.

Group Therapy

If you'd like to join a group, please contact me at (646) 580-3123 or nicole@nicolematusow.com.

group therapy for non mothers, childless not by choice, and involuntarily childless, group therapy 10010

The Next Chapter: Childless by Choice or by Chance

Not being a parent doesn't have to define you. Whether circumstances or choice brought you to this moment, the stigma our culture places on childlessness can leave you feeling like you're "not enough." Share your personal history with relationships, career, family, friendships, and childlessness and hear those of others who refuse to feel invisible. Let's start working on the next chapter...

Women, men, and genderqueer welcome.

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Group for Artists/Creatives - *Looking for new members*

Fear of failure, lack of inspiration or focus, feeling directionless, impostor syndrome...these are some of the obstacles that tend to wedge between creatives and their creativity. This group will provide structure, accountability, and exploration of your creative life, getting you back on track as you begin to identify the obstacles and clear out your psychic space so you have enough room to finish projects and continue momentum. With fellow artists and creatives, you'll begin to rekindle your relationship with yourself and your art.

Group members include actors, writers, sketchers/painters, sculptors, musicians, digital artists, performance artists, photographers, and filmmakers.

Psychoanalytic Courses & Workshops
at the Center for Human Development (CHD)

Addicted to Love: The Connection Between Object Relations and Limerence

Limerence is the experience of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, seemingly involuntarily. It is characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one’s feelings. How does limerence reflect our early experiences with our mother/caregiver? Is obsessing over the object of our desire an adult manifestation of the binary state of infancy in which we experience objects and part-objects as all good or all bad? Does our heartache over unrequited love express an ongoing hunger for a good-enough mother? This workshop will explore our experiences in early infancy and how they might predict our experiences with obsessive love. Anyone with first-hand love addiction experiences or clinicians who recognize love addiction in their patients are welcome.

For more information, go to www.chdny.org

From the Cradle to the Grave: Attachment Style’s Impact on Adult Romantic Relationships

Using the work of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth as a springboard, this course will explore the ways in which infant-caregiver relationships affect our adult relationship patterns. Whether you're looking to examine your own attachment/relationship associations, or hoping to gain insight into couples-work, this 4-class course will include discussion on attachment theory and how partner choice and ongoing relationship issues may be the natural consequence of early attachment experience and styles.

For more information, go to www.chdny.org

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As a couples therapist in NYC—the not-enough-time-in-the-day capital of the world—I shudder at the notion of relationships requiring hard work, because I know that hard-working people don’t want to then work hard when they get home to their partners. Humans are often most proud of those accomplishments that required a great deal of effort, but we also gravitate toward making things more efficient and easier on ourselves, don’t we?

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Dorothy Tennov, the psychologist who coined the term, defines limerence as “an involuntary interpersonal state that involves an acute longing for emotional reciprocation, obsessive-compulsive thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and emotional dependence on another person.” If you’ve never heard of limerence, you’re in the majority.

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