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    Nicole Matusow, LCSW

    Licensed Psychotherapist - NYC

About Me & My Practice

I see couples looking to repair/renew their relationship and individuals wondering why they're repeating the same relationship patterns. Frustration and heartache caused by communication issues, affairs, separation, limerence, stagnation, and loneliness make it impossible to feel settled and at peace. In therapy, we'll bring calm back into your life as we clear out whatever's been hogging your psychic space and identify recurring themes you're ready to leave behind. I also work with artists/creatives hoping to understand and resolve blocks and lack of focus in their work (often in addition to some of the above).

The quality of our relationships has a great deal to do with the quality of our lives. Connecting in a meaningful way can sometimes be a struggle, whether it's with your partner or love interest, or as an artist to your craft. And, let's not forget the relationship with yourself. In many ways, the relationship with yourself is the most important relationship in your life. If you don't show up for yourself, how can you truly show up for others? Therapy is an invaluable step in the process of nurturing your needs and your worth.

I'm gentle and warm, and I go at your pace. I see therapy as a collaborative process that promotes self-understanding and acceptance. My job is to be finely attuned to you as we work toward ensuring that your needs are met inside and outside the therapy room.

Whether it's your relationship with the people in your life or with your life's calling, the work we do together will help you sort through the barriers that have been keeping you from being the best version of yourself.

My office is at 928 Broadway (at 21st Street) in the Flatiron area of Manhattan (10010). I also have an office in Westchester at 7 Pondfield in Bronxville, NY.

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My Approach

What happens in the room...

mindfulness therapy

Raising awareness...

You'll begin to create the awareness needed to create change outside the therapy room. Becoming mindful of your everyday thoughts, feelings, and behaviors will be the foundation of our work together.

cbt dbt therapy

Exploring outdated patterns of coping ...

Digging deeper into your recent and not-so-recent history is essential to unearthing old thought patterns and behaviors that are no longer working for you.

psychodynamic psychoanalytic therapy

Uncovering unconscious motivations...

Sorting through hidden feelings and motivations that may be preventing you from getting unstuck and truly connecting in your relationships.


I am experienced in a range of specialties, including:

couples communication issues

Couples Therapy/
Relationship Issues

Whether you're having a crisis with your spouse or partner or hoping to fix what's been broken in your relationship, my first order of business is to help you communicate with each other in a productive way.

Couples I've worked with often share the same sentiment: We thought we were communicating all this time. They weren't. I help couples feel safe to speak freely and rewire the lines of communication so they find themselves on the same page.

If you're trying to cope after a break up or divorce, I'll be there to support you and help guide your grieving and healing process so you can function better in your daily life.

artist creativity issues


Fear of failure or lack of inspiration might be preventing you from taking next step in your career. Or maybe, as an artist in your craft, you'd like to get to know yourself better to free the parts of you that are dusty or rusty. Either way, I can help you get unstuck and unencumbered by whatever is preventing you from honing your skills and carving out your unique path.

If you're lacking structure in your creative life, or something has been preventing you from making progress, together we'll get you back on track by helping you identify and define how you want to be spending your days.

anxiety therapy


It's hard to put on a brave face and act like you have it together when you're suffering. Anxiety or depression can leave filled with shame and feeling alone at a time when you need support the most.

These issues may be indicative of an underlying issue stemming from childhood or trauma. The treatment process might include both treating the symptoms and understanding the underlying causes.

object relations psychoanalytic therapy

Childhood Issues
Affecting Adulthood

From the moment we're born, we are affected by what goes on around us. In infancy, our mother (or caregiver) is our world, and we rely on her to get our needs met. We are shaped by our earliest experiences, and we develop both functional and dysfunctional coping methods.

Talk therapy can help you understand the ways in which your formative years have had an impact on your recent years.

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What to expect...

If you've googled "how to find a couples therapist in nyc" or "find a good therapist near me," you already know that it's no easy task sorting through the results. And then when you make a choice, not knowing what to expect is a scary notion.

Will she be warm and caring? What if I don't feel comfortable telling her things about my life? Will she put me at ease? What if she can't help me? Those things are on my mind too before we meet for the first time, because I want to make sure your concerns aren't realized. And especially that last one. I'm confident that I CAN help you through right now, and in the direction of where you'd like to be...with warmth and caring. There. Now you know what to expect.

Group Therapy

Contact me to join a group.

group therapy for non mothers, childless not by choice, and involuntarily childless, group therapy 10010

The Next Chapter: Childless Not by Choice

Not being a parent doesn't have to define you. Whatever circumstances brought you to this moment, the stigma our culture places on childlessness can leave you feeling like you're "not enough." Share your personal history with relationships, career, family, friendships, and childlessness and hear those of others who refuse to feel invisible. Let's start working on the next chapter...

Recent Articles

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just love yourself

When Humans Attack, Part I: Self-Attack

There’s no shortage of motivational speakers, memes, and well-meaning people telling you to and all good things will follow. I don’t think I’m the only person who’s been perplexed about just how to do that. How do I start? What does it look like? Why do I need to? Why don’t I already? Step-by-step instructions (with photos!) would be really useful here. Since inspirational memes rarely go into detail, we’re left to feel even worse about ourselves, because it’s not something we can just do.

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improving your relationship

How do you have a great relationship? Practice, kid, practice.

As a couples therapist in NYC—the not-enough-time-in-the-day capital of the world—I shudder at the notion of relationships requiring hard work, because I know that hard-working people don’t want to then work hard when they get home to their partners. Humans are often most proud of those accomplishments that required a great deal of effort, but we also gravitate toward making things more efficient and easier on ourselves, don’t we?

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feelings are inescapable

To feel is human; to allow yourself to feel, divine.

Feelings. Such a lame word. And when it comes to feelings, no word is more triggering than triggering. Don’t even get me started on validate. I’m a therapist, and even I cringe having to use clichéd, therapist-y terms. Ick. But, similar to moist, some words are perfectly succinct and sum things up no matter how much we shudder at the sound of them. So if you’re skittish about feelings that are being validated, let this sentence serve as your trigger warning.

For the rest of you who haven’t gouged your eyes out, I encourage you to read on and do your best to tolerate these terms, because you’re going to need practice with tolerance if you want to have healthy relationships with people.

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Limerence: The agony and the ecstasy
of our earliest addiction

Most of us fall in and out of love throughout our lifetimes; others of us manage to do both in one day.

If the latter sounds like something you did in middle school, or last week, I encourage you to read on. The topic of discussion is high intensity crushing, also known as obsessive love, also known as limerence.

Can't we all just get along? Apparently not.

In the wake of the Kavanaugh hearing, Americans are discussing the midterm elections like never before on social media, at family dinners, in waiting rooms, in therapy. Turnout is expected to be higher than anytime since 1960. And the conversations seem to have one thing in common: polarization. It’s as if Democrats and Republicans are rival teams headed to the super bowl. And things are getting ugly before the big game.

Artistic Expression Digression

It took me a couple of hours to write this sentence. Yes, that sentence. The first one. I was distracted by social media, old family photos, my calendar reminders, a sink full of dishes, that hissing sound emanating from the radiator...and my own thoughts. My creative energy compelled me to open a blank page and start writing. Something seemed to lead me astray. Disorder set in, and I was everywhere but on this page. I’m back now.

Most of the creatives I encounter--both in my practice and personal life--feel stuck at some point or another...

(In)visible women.

Wanna kill desire? Add pressure to your sex life.

What's black and white and gray all over? Hopefully, your thought process.

Do you express your feelings or keep them in a bottle on your night table?

If you worry like it’s your job, it’s time to work on your resume.

Nicole Matusow, LCSW

Individual Therapy | Couples Therapy | Group Therapy

NYC | Bronxville

928 Broadway, New York, NY 10010

7 Pondfield, Bronxville, NY 10708